Dating (10 Viewers)

[Booker]

Apropos of a first date, the only thing we discussed between us was that we wanted a second date. All good.

Did you not make it clear that you put out on the first date?

 

[saintmdterps]

You ever gonna tell us?

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[saintmdterps]

This is similar to an experience one of my best friends had.....he was married to a horrible woman, honestly, one of the worst persons I've ever met (male or female).....she was a control freak, had multiple issues, selfish to the point of trying to freeze him out of everything, I had to convince him to get a divorce lawyer.....they had 2 kids that were both college aged when it all went down, she couldn't have cared less about them....he was the parent that actually parented....

Once he did things got better for him almost immediately, and shortly after the divorce he met a woman I knew wasn't good for him but he had been as Terp said "in the desert for so long" it didn't matter.....it started, was good for him while it lasted and it ended.....

I'm not one to judge, his were hard shoes to be in at the time....he came out of it mostly unscathed, which is what I was most concerned about and now he is fine, he reconnected with his 1st ever girlfriend and they started seeing each other over 4 years ago, still going strong.....she is literally the opposite of his ex.....I'm happy for him.....hope you find happiness soon to my man Terp.....

Much appreciated my brother!

 

[saintmdterps]

Did you not make it clear that you put out on the first date?

Pfft. Of course we had sex. It’s just that she had to leave early. We still want that second date though.

Just kidding about the sex

 

[guidomerkinsrules]

Far left

same

 

[0rion]

Home. Went well. Her husband did not succumb to cancer. Sadly he took his own life, devastating her and the children. Hence her anger at him. They’re all undergoing counseling. We’ve both been thru some ****. She said she felt comfortable telling me the heavy stuff. I felt the same. We both agreed that discussing mental health concerns openly will help to remove the stigma. Neither of us hide our struggles, but we don’t wish to be martys to those struggles either

Be nice to everyone you meet, we’re all fighting some kind of battle. Some are fighting many battles.

Apropos of a first date, the only thing we discussed regarding “us” was that we wanted a second date. All good.

Glad it went well. Advice incoming.....while talking about struggles is inevitable don't let it evolve into something you guys always talk about. New relationships, or new people in general, shouldn't be about negative things from the past. Have fun first and foremost. I'm no expert at this by any means but I have stayed at a holiday inn express

 

[0rion]

Just kidding about the sex

Nights still young.

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

Glad it went well. Advice incoming.....while talking about struggles is inevitable don't let it evolve into something you guys always talk about. New relationships, or new people in general, shouldn't be about negative things from the past. Have fun first and foremost. I'm no expert at this by any means but I have stayed at a holiday inn express

Yeah. Need to avoid the trauma bonding stuff.

 

[Madmarsha]

same

 

[Mojomajik9]

Kardiac Kat.

I seem to remember she said something that royally ticked you off and you tore her a new one in a thread.

Dating after 40 is far too much drama. Here there be dragons and insecurities and neuroses built up over a lifetime. And finding someone who can accept/tolerate it? You’re definitely not playing on easy mode.