Are you still friends with any of your childhood friends? (1 Viewer)

So true story... My best friend and I are as close to twins as could be. We were born in the same hospital. His mom and my mom were in the maternity ward together. We were born at the same exact time EXCEPT he was born 24 hours before I was - exactly 24 hours. I should've been the oldest, but it took me 36 hours to pop out.

We were together from nursery to preschool, preschool to kindergarten, kindergarten through elementary school and into high school. The only thing that separated us - he went to the army, I went to college (I was supposed to enlist in the Marines, but couldn't due to my diabetes).

We chat weekly at a minimum today.
 
So true story... My best friend and I are as close to twins as could be. We were born in the same hospital. His mom and my mom were in the maternity ward together. We were born at the same exact time EXCEPT he was born 24 hours before I was - exactly 24 hours. I should've been the oldest, but it took me 36 hours to pop out.

We were together from nursery to preschool, preschool to kindergarten, kindergarten through elementary school and into high school. The only thing that separated us - he went to the army, I went to college (I was supposed to enlist in the Marines, but couldn't due to my diabetes).

We chat weekly at a minimum today.
Yeah, my best friend and I growing up was similar. We were both born on the same day, same hospital, and we both were born with severe hearing loss as a result of Rubella.

His parents had a Winnebago and we used to watch the Dukes of Hazard and their camper had a Dukes horn announcing our arrival at the campground.

We were huge fans of Star Wars and pretended to be SW characters. Same with DC/Marvel characters. Mostly Spider-Man, Captain America and Superman. He once pretended to be Superman jumping off the roof of his house and actually broke his leg. Yeah, those were the days, lol.

We grew apart in HS and very rarely ever connected again. While I was in college he unfortunately fell into drugs and ended up in prison for a while. I met him once briefly in a bar 20+ years ago and he didn't look so great. Felt bad for him.

Have no idea what's happened to him since.
 
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Yeah, my oldest friend that lived down the street from me in Mandeville. Met him when we moved into the neighborhood at 5 years old. We would do backyard camping, then joined scouts together and went backpacking all over the place. We kept in contact despite going to different colleges, moves, etc. We now both live in Virginia (different parts), and get together at least once a month, chat regularly and still go camping togehter.
 
i've puzzled this question ' why i don't carry friends over from one stage of life to the next?'
part of it is just choices - i was the only one from my grade school to go to my 7th grade, i was the only one from that school to go to my high school, the only one from HS to go to my college
( i did have a friend go from my college to NY and we've been live long friends)

i've always had this strange attachment to the Kung Fu tv show - in particular to the closing credits of Caine walking across the sand towards? the metaphor of his footsteps in the sand making an impression but eventually fading away seemed resonant
for whatever reason (until having kids) this seemed like the metaphor for my life
 
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I think about this meme a lot.

I was blessed to grow up with a great group of siblings and kids who were tied together because we were Mormon growing up in New Orleans in the 80s-00s. There weren’t many of us that fit that description at the time, and our parents had us hang out together (wether we wanted to or not) so we could watch out for each other. We would go to parties together. Football games. School events. It was great.

Over time some guys rolled off, and we never heard from them, but today those of us who remain (about 10 of us) have a great group chat. We live in 4 different states, but it feels like we haven’t changed or moved apart.

That is one of the best memes I've ever seen......we had a group of neighborhood kids (about 7-8 of us) that played baseball, football, basketball, all kinds of other games and stuff....I lost touch with most of them except 1, grew up 3 doors down, known him since I was 3.....we text almost daily....lived together off and on in our 20's.....in LA and MD.....still hang out at least 3 times a year.....usually at his beach house in Rehoboth....friends with 2 of them on FB.....
 
I'm still pretty close to a handful of childhood friends - but I don't live near any of them so it's mostly texting, with some voice calls and an in-person get together maybe once a year on average more or less.

One of my closest friends, I have known since middle school. We didn't become close friends until high school and then we went to college together, were roommates freshman and senior year - and then hung out a lot post-college. We were in each other's weddings and I'm his second child's god-father. It's a 'childhood friend' but that timeline is different than most, it carried on actively.

I have one friend I have known since elementary school and became close with in high school that I still talk to at least once a month and we see each other when we can - we had our 50th b-day party together (we have the same birthday).

I have another friend that was basically my best friend from like grades 4 through 9, but then he moved away. We reconnected after college a bit but more recently, like late 30s, we fully reconnected and we text at least once a month, and talk on the phone a few times a year.

I have a friend I have known since first grade and always tried to stay in touch but he's not very good at it - and he's very busy with his job which is pretty intense - but I have become friends with his wife and we stay in touch through her, she's much better at it. She admits she has become his social rep.

Getting into the high school age, I have a handful of friends that I'm still in touch with and communicate often. Several of them (three or four) I see at least once a year and talk to regularly.
 
I moved a ton through my early 20's and haven't really kept in touch with anyone during that period, at least not on a deeper level than a casual connection. I also partied really hard through high school and college and a lot of my friends from that scene have died, ended up in prison or the streets. I disconnected myself from that life at 21 and never looked back. It was a situation where I had to do it for my own life.

Since that time I really have made a ton of friends but I haven't taken the time to let many of them grow into really deep friendships. The last 15 years of my life have been non-stop traveling and when I'm home try to spend as much time with family as possible. I'm just not in a position to be a good friend and do not expect it in return. I'm not sure what that says about me. lol
 
The last 15 years of my life have been non-stop traveling and when I'm home try to spend as much time with family as possible. I'm just not in a position to be a good friend and do not expect it in return. I'm not sure what that says about me. lol

You have more friends than you think Brandon. 😊
 
We moved around a lot when I was a kid because Dad was an oilfield worker and transfers/promotions/reassignments happened about every 3 years.

1st and start of 2nd grade - McComb
Remainder of 2nd grade to mid-fall of 5th grade - Natchez
Remainder of 5th grade to Christmas of 7th grade - Waynesboro

It was here, that Dad put his foot down and explained that we all needed to be nearer family until we graduated from HS. So second half of 7th grade to Spring the year after I graduated HS - Houma. They would go on to live in Lafayette, San Antonio, and then back to Houma.

I made friends, and I do have some contact with folks as far back as Waynesboro. I have tried to find folks from Natchez, but that seems nearly impossible.

I met my best friend in 8th grade and he and I still remain very much in contact regardless of the physical distance. We shared a lot of the same experiences from a family/geography point of view and connected almost instantly as you would a brother. I consider him my brother.

As an adult, I go through periods where I have friends close by and go through other periods, like now, where I don't. I have moved a fair amount myself, so I can certainly understand the ebb and flow of such things.
 
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when you have available time (ain’t that rich) do you all try finding friends who you can’t remember their last time. I’m talking before facebook and instagram made it easy to connect.

I had a number of friends from elementary and middle school who I left behind when our family moved. I wonder what happened to some of those folks, but it’s hard to find “Josh”, “Zach”, “donkey breath” and so on. We didn’t care for anyone’s last name, and our schools didn’t have year books. I’m sure that someone went on to fake and fortune, while someone probably went to prison.
 
We moved from Baltimore to Salisbury when I was 14, so two groups of friends. I have one friend here I’ve been close with for 45 years since high school and college. We were in each others weddings, held each others kids the day they were born, and held each other as we cried the day each of my parents died and his mom died. We’re still very close and drink beer together frequently.

I stayed close with my friends in Baltimore for 3 years after we moved, as we frequently returned to visit. One day in October 1978 I came home from school to find my mom very upset “Craig was killed in a car accident last night” he was my closest friend. my dad came home from work and held me as I cried. Shortly thereafter we called his parents and my folks offered their sympathies. It was my turn. “I’m so sorry to hear about Craig” was all I could say “I know you are Michael, I know you are” his mom said. I will never forget that call.

There were 6 people in the car that night, and 5 were killed. It ripped the close-knit neighborhood apart. Another friend who lived across the street from my buddy said years later it was the worst night of his life.

I consider myself lucky to have friends now and in the past who are close enough to cry over.
 
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Some people are there to help you move on to the next phase and some are there for the long journey. No matter what I cherish those friendships.

My Squad I'm close with now are from college years. Though every once in a while I'll run into someone I went to grade school with, and they tell me I haven't changed a bit, and I get the biggest smiles and hugs. That makes me happy.
 

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