What’s the worst thing someone connected to you did? (1 Viewer)

[saintmdterps]

I could write a book on all the things my biological father has done. He's easily one of the worst people I know.

- wife beater (& beat on every 'girlfriend' he had after my mom except his 2nd wife bc he was on parole and afraid of going back to prison - at least for awhile bc that faded & he went to prison a few times after that)
- cheated on our mom with our 17 year old babysitter. Probably cheated on every woman after that as well.
- verbally & emotionally abused my oldest brother from the time he was a baby. Also was wasted one night when he was a baby and "showing off" to his friends and put beer in my brother's bottle when my mom was in the other room.
- manufactured meth (who knows how many lives he ruined as a result of his drug manufacturing & distribution). Also got himself kicked out of the Army for manufacturing meth on government property.
- Murder - but somehow managed to beat the charge and get his "best friend" to eat the charge.
- mooched off so many women who didn't have much to begin with
- completely failed as a father, son, brother and husband
- beat countless people up (admittedly other junkies but none the less he was a violent piece of human garbage)
- drove drunk with us kids in the car
- threw a metal folding chair at my aunt's wedding causing a major scene and being kicked out of the wedding; later - all because he was hammered & I wouldn't dance with him. He was waiting for us back at my grandparents after the wedding & trying to take my brothers and me home with him. My grandpa refused so he was trying to fight my grandpa (his dad) when he refused to allow us to go with 'dad' so my uncle stepped in and fought him instead.
- Got drunk and got mad at my oldest brother over a video game when my brother was like 21 and hit my brother. By this time my brother was stronger and bigger and ended up beating him up.
- Criticized my oldest brother and all his 'failures' while my brother was on his death bed dying (resulting in me cussing him out in the middle of a deserted wing of the hospital and pointing out how he directly was responsible for the way my brother turned out)
- Called his sister a number of slurs last July after my grandmother's funeral.
- Called me an effin B when I tried to bring some levity to the conversation after he and my aunt had gotten into it. I again cussed him out and told him about himself and reminded him how close he is to his own dirt nap and how none of his siblings, nieces or his only living child (me) want nothing to do with him and he will die alone & deserved every ounce of suffering.

....I'm sure he's done far more. This is just what I know about and what is top of mind that I cannot recall right now. Easily one of the worst humans I am "connected to".

I thank God every day that my mom left him when I was 2 and we were raised by a very good man who I called dad.

My god, that is horrible. I think you're lucky/stubborn/strong to have turned out as you did, because you seem like one of the good ones.

 

[livefromDC]

My god, that is horrible. I think you're lucky/stubborn/strong to have turned out as you did, because you seem like one of the good ones.

Seems? She trains seeing eye dogs. She one of the good ones.

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

My god, that is horrible. I think you're lucky/stubborn/strong to have turned out as you did, because you seem like one of the good ones.

Yeah - I'm not sure how/why I turned out good. I guess I got out of there young enough and experienced the love and gentleness of a good father.
My oldest brother drank himself to death. He struggled & suffered more than me but he also was on the receiving end of that loser's B S until he was 8 so the damage was done. I was too little to be treated in that manner plus I was a girl so I was treated differently as an infant/toddler until my mom left. Obviously after detailing how he called me an effin B, that changed over time LOL.

My middle brother passed away from brain cancer at 12 so he was too young to ever have a chance to go in one direction or the other but he was my best friend (we were very close in age) and salt of the earth kind of guy.

I have previously thought about what my life would have been like had my mom stayed. I probably would have grown up trailer trash, started smoking Marlboros at 12, had my first child at 13 and dropped out of HS or something. LOL. None of us know why my 'dad' turned out the way he did. He was raised the same as all his other siblings and they are all relatively normal people with great jobs and successful.

I think the part that bothers me the most about the things he's done, is that he has never acknowledged any of it, taken accountability or even attempted to atone for anything. In fact, when I cussed him out when my brother was dying and told him his drunken, hyped up on meth violent outbursts and mistreatment were the reason my brother turned out the way he did, he was like "I didn't drink or do drugs while I was married to your mom" (mom was sitting right there) and that's what sent me to a a rage and caused me to cuss him out because #1, he was in the Army and got kicked out of the Army for making meth on base so like LIES and #2 my only real memory of him as a 2 year old is him drunk, scaring the whole house with his violent outbursts, punching my mom and smashing out the back window of her station wagon.

LIke um... you cannot keep denying all of this. I saw one of his girlfriends with black eyes all the time. (I also saw her attack my dad first once so I think it was just toxic and violent from both sides since they were both junkies).

He was just a terrible person and I truly cannot think of anything he's ever done good for anyone else. He is currently taking care of his long-term girlfriend that is like 15 years older than him and in very bad health but that's only because he lives off of her. Once she dies, he will be homeless. Her daughters HATE him (rightfully so - we all do!)

 

[guidomerkinsrules]

I could write a book on all the things my biological father has done. He's easily one of the worst people I know.

- wife beater (& beat on every 'girlfriend' he had after my mom except his 2nd wife bc he was on parole and afraid of going back to prison - at least for awhile bc that faded & he went to prison a few times after that)
- cheated on our mom with our 17 year old babysitter. Probably cheated on every woman after that as well.
- verbally & emotionally abused my oldest brother from the time he was a baby. Also was wasted one night when he was a baby and "showing off" to his friends and put beer in my brother's bottle when my mom was in the other room.
- manufactured meth (who knows how many lives he ruined as a result of his drug manufacturing & distribution). Also got himself kicked out of the Army for manufacturing meth on government property.
- Murder - but somehow managed to beat the charge and get his "best friend" to eat the charge.
- mooched off so many women who didn't have much to begin with
- completely failed as a father, son, brother and husband
- beat countless people up (admittedly other junkies but none the less he was a violent piece of human garbage)
- drove drunk with us kids in the car
- threw a metal folding chair at my aunt's wedding causing a major scene and being kicked out of the wedding - all because he was hammered & I wouldn't dance with him. He was waiting for us back at my grandparents after the wedding & trying to take my brothers and me home with him. My grandpa refused so he was trying to fight my grandpa (his dad) when he refused to allow us to go with 'dad' so my uncle stepped in and fought him instead.
- Got drunk and got mad at my oldest brother over a video game when my brother was like 21 and hit my brother. By this time my brother was stronger and bigger and ended up beating him up.
- Criticized my oldest brother and all his 'failures' while my brother was on his death bed dying (resulting in me cussing him out in the middle of a deserted wing of the hospital and pointing out how he directly was responsible for the way my brother turned out)
- Called his sister a number of slurs last July after my grandmother's funeral.
- Called me an effin B when I tried to bring some levity to the conversation after he and my aunt had gotten into it. I again cussed him out and told him about himself and reminded him how close he is to his own dirt nap and how none of his siblings, nieces or his only living child (me) want nothing to do with him and he will die alone & deserved every ounce of suffering.

....I'm sure he's done far more. This is just what I know about and what is top of mind that I can recall right now. Easily one of the worst humans I am "connected to".

I thank God every day that my mom left him when I was 2 and we were raised by a very good man who I called dad.

dang
This shows amazing strength on your part that you didn’t end up on a water tower somewhere

 

[Nisey55]

I don’t know the whole truth of it because we just don't discuss it but my Dad may have shot a man after repeated break-ins of his business. Obviously it went unreported or was covered up by friends with influence. He was a good man and you could tell that he carried a big weight all of his life.
As good a man as Dad was, his oldest brother once cornered me and grabbed my 9 year old breasts. Never told my parents, it would have broke Dad's heart. Arrogant trash would give me looks over the years like he thought he had the upper hand. When I was old enough to stop fearing him, I made myself quite clear to him and he quit the snideness.

 

[guidomerkinsrules]

I don’t know the whole truth of it because we just don't discuss it but my Dad may have shot a man after repeated break-ins of his business. Obviously it went unreported or was covered up by friends with influence. He was a good man and you could tell that he carried a big weight all of his life.
As good a man as Dad was, his oldest brother once cornered me and grabbed my 9 year old breasts. Never told my parents, it would have broke Dad's heart. Arrogant trash would give me looks over the years like he thought he had the upper hand. When I was old enough to stop fearing him, I made myself quite clear to him and he quit the snideness.

Man, so very sorry that you and WAY too many young women go through absolute nonsense like that

 

[Sun Wukong]

My long time barber/former neighbor was discovered to have been taking nude voyeur recordings of his own teenage step daughter in addition to other CP awfulness.

Needless to say he is no longer my barber.

 

[saintmdterps]

Seems? She trains seeing eye dogs. She one of the good ones.

I did not know this. TIL;

 

[boutte]

A guy I worked for, who had been deported from Costa Rica, got a forged passport and moved back. The next thing I heard of him he was in prison there for sleeping with a 14 year old girl. What a piece of work!

 

[guidomerkinsrules]

I’m beginning to regret this thread- doesn’t anyone have some white collar crime stories?
I know sexual assault is a huge issue but it’s even more prevalent than I thought

 

[Sun Wukong]

I’m beginning to regret this thread- doesn’t anyone have some white collar crime stories?
I know sexual assault is a huge issue but it’s even more prevalent than I thought

A childhood friend of mine stole a tractor, set a hay field on fire and got into a shootout with the cops.

A friend of my brother faked his death on a boating trip in Mexico. He got found out pretty quickly.

 

[guidomerkinsrules]

A childhood friend of mine stole a tractor, set a hay field on fire and got into a shootout with the cops.

A friend of my brother faked his death on a boating trip in Mexico. He got found out pretty quickly.

Now we’re talking
What was the faker’s plan - how long do you think he could have survived on the lam?

 

[Mr. Blue Sky]

A friend of my brother faked his death on a boating trip in Mexico. He got found out pretty quickly.

I think i saw the Dateline on that one.. was he dating Olivia Newton John at the time ?

 

[Sun Wukong]

Now we’re talking
What was the faker’s plan - how long do you think he could have survived on the lam?

This was him:

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I did get a detail wrong. It wasn't a boating trip. He tried to use a raft to get to Mexico after he faked his death.