Does anyone have a parent who is a hoarder? (4 Viewers)

[saintmdterps]

my parents were anti-hoarders. We children were given a certain amount of space for our stuff so when we got something new, something had to go. but was donated, trashed, or passed down

I don’t keep much. Nothing in the attic to speak of. Back in the day everything I owned had to fit in my pickup, a 4WD Toyota. Extra stuff was sold, donated, trashed, or given away

I’m an OT in a nursing home. Hoarding is a constant among my patients. Almost every one regardless of age or diagnosis.

 

[Optimus Prime]

Carol has been trying to clear her home for two years but in her maelstrom of dishevelled possessions, there is still nowhere to sit – and barely anywhere to stand.

To her, however, things look great. She is delighted that the chaotic towers of tumbled clothes, yellowed newspapers, pebbles and innumerable bags stuffed into other dusty bags are now waist- instead of shoulder-high: six months ago, these perilous mountains teetered close to the stained ceilings, brushing the thick cobwebs that still hang from broken light fittings.

Carol has no illusions about what is going on. “I’m surrounded by my trauma,” she says, her thin face peering out from behind a barrier of hair and hat. “All this stuff is the physical manifestation of the actual traumas I’ve suffered and not dealt with.


“I couldn’t clear this stuff out before, because everything I touched re-triggered a trauma. It made any attempt to clear too exhausting, mentally and physically, to actually achieve,” she adds.

Only recognised as a standalone mental health disorder in 2013 – but still strikingly under-researched – hoarding is thought to affect between 2.5% and 6% of the population.

According to the recent US Senate report, The Consequences of Clutter, an ageing society means this number is likely to increase.

“If it rises at this rate and continues to rise, we’re going to be facing a hoarding pandemic,” said Dr Lynne Drummond, author of the recently published Everything You Need to Know About Hoarding.

Hoarding, too often, is an issue of life and death. In 2022, the London Fire Brigade attended 1,036 hoarding-related fires which resulted in 186 injuries and 10 deaths. In Wales, hoarding is responsible for almost a third of fire-related deaths.

The number of deaths and injuries caused when hoards cause people to trip and fall, or when they become trapped under an “avalanche” of possessions are undocumented, but experts say are significant.

Then there is the impact of living in squalor: the self-neglect inevitable if one can’t wash, reach the fridge or the cooker – not to mention the risk of vermin.

The impact on families and children is also disturbing. Hoarding is said to run in families. About 1% of children are thought to have hoarding behaviours. Experts struggle to fully understand the complex nature of the condition.

This is not helped by the huge stigma around it. “Those who hoard are portrayed as lazy, slovenly and dirty,” said Drummond. “Hoarding is widely considered to be a lifestyle choice.”……….

‘I’m never going back to living like this’: how an innovative project is helping hoarders

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www.theguardian.com

 

[Rickboy]

My Mom passed back in October. My poor younger brother and sister had to clear out her apartment. She had only lived there for a couple years but there was garbage everywhere. They pulled a few dumpster loads of trash bags out of there.