Where do you get buried? (1 Viewer)

[Eeyore]

Trebuchet me into Lake Michigan. Let the critters have me. There's no reason to waste land or fuel for my disposal

 

[antipop]

cremation. divide ashes according to time spent

that's very sweet of you but we don't want your ashes

 

[zatsnzapps]

The real question is... what kinda Celebration of Life party you want in your honor?

My Dad passed away a couple of weeks ago and there is going to be a small funeral for immediate family next week and then a CoL (I think that's what they're calling it) in the summer for family, friends, and acquaintances.

 

[St. Widge]

that's very sweet of you but we don't want your ashes

Speak for yourself.

 

[cpg]

I would like my corpse to be launched into space. If it could just be stuck in orbit to horrify generations of astronauts to come, that would be sublime.

 

[Madmarsha]

Burial seems like such a waste to me.

I understand why it is done. Graveyards can be very interesting places (re: the plethora of Youtube channels dedicated to finding the famous, infamous, and downright odd/interesting in cemeteries) and historically fascinating in some cases.

But I also find it odd that we use vast acreages of land that could be better used for something else. I have only visited cemeteries a couple of times in the past, long after the decedent was gone. The lengths we go to preserve bodies and the expense we incur to preserve bodies seem somehow odd to me. I've never really understood it.

Agree with all this. I absolutely love cemeteries however, I wish to leave nothing behind for other taphophiles. I know where there are 3 empty gravesites that will never be used (in other words, I know where to hide the body. Don't mess with me). But I want a Gram Parsons send off.

Anyway, I think cremation is the only answer to the original question

 

[Madmarsha]

Interesting watch on the racket of the burial industry. Its actually a fair recent phenomenon

I love her.

 

[soupcan dan]

"the cook, his wife, the thief and her lover"

i'm thinkin' parsnips on the side.

 

[Madmarsha]

I have a cylinder like this with some of my mom's ashes in that I wear every day. It doesn't have the engraving embellishment, it's plain, but otherwise exactly like this. I don't know why I didn't get this one at the time (maybe I didn't see it and, well, now it's too late) because it would have been perfect for my music teacher/opera singer mother. And maybe people would stop asking me if the vial contains my drugs/medication.

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[zatsnzapps]

There have been many things that I have evolved my beliefs over the years as I've grown older and (hopefully) a little wiser, and my final arrangements are one of them. I used to be pretty staunchly in the burial plot line of thought, but I've pretty much done a 180 and I want to be cremated for the reasons previously mentioned in the thread.

@Madmarsha - my Dad was huge into our genealogy (wow, didn't realize it was spelled with an 'a' rather an 'o'), and on one of his trips up here, he wanted to visit this old cemetery in NJ. No big deal - it's not that far, right? Well, it was southern NJ, so we had to go up to Delaware, over the bridge, and then pretty far south. Wound up being a 3 hour trip each way, lol. It was a cool little cemetery on the grounds of an old church, but still not worth that drive.

The old cemeteries and many of the ones in NOLA are historically beautiful, but I just don't find modern ones all that great. Count me in the camp that they're just a huge waste of space now.

 

[Madmarsha]

@Madmarsha - my Dad was huge into our genealogy (wow, didn't realize it was spelled with an 'a' rather an 'o'), and on one of his trips up here, he wanted to visit this old cemetery in NJ. No big deal - it's not that far, right? Well, it was southern NJ, so we had to go up to Delaware, over the bridge, and then pretty far south. Wound up being a 3 hour trip each way, lol. It was a cool little cemetery on the grounds of an old church, but still not worth that drive.

I went through what I could make a case for as being a harder trip to get to Calvary Cemetery in Queens, NY about 10 years ago. I mean, if you think public transportation and then a LOT of walking is a hardship (which I do. I love being able to get in my car and go but I'm also not brave enough to drive in NYC anymore). Calvary Cemetery stood in for the cemetery that Don Corleone was buried at at the end of The Godfather. Well, just so happens my husband's paternal great GM and GF and grandmother and grandfather are buried there (along with who knows, a million other people?). I was trying to track his genealogy then and decided to fly into NYC to combine a trip home to PA with a weekend stay and some research in the city archives and the library.

Seeing those city cemeteries and how huge they are and seem to go on forever, I don't really think about the "souls" buried there but rather, like others have said, it seems a waste and also what's the point?

 

[kizzy821]

It's suspicious that you outlive both of your wives

But it won't matter. Neither you, nor your dead wives will know where you're buried.

As for me, when I tell you there is nothing I care less about...
Dropkick me off the side of a mountain if you wanna be fancy.

If by some outside chance, the soul actually separates from the body and 'lives on' - my spirit will be partying hard. Doing ghostly gyrations. Probably to Push It by Salt-N-Pepa.

Free at last, free at last...

 

[zeetes]

i doubt that i'll care. one request though, please don't turn me into a plantable tree. that sheet is just weird.

 

[Bill]

My plan is not to die.

So far, so good.

 

[saintmdterps]

A coworker and I were discussing this today.
If you were married for 20 years, had a couple kids in the process, and your wife dies. A few years later you get remarried. Say you were married to #2 for about 20 years, whom you had a child with also. When you die, which wife do you get buried by? Is there a correct answer to this? I feel like no matter which direction you go, some are going to be upset...
No, this isn't a case for me, because i won't remarry if my wife passes on. I wouldn't stay single, but i am not getting married again... Plus i want to be cremated anyway, so this wouldn't be a choice me or my family will have to make..

I get cremated and my funeral march is "Another One Bites the Dust" Both wives better get along as they're scattering my ashes in the ocean