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I agree and I know I engaged in it a few times. I've made my amends with the women I did it to. Their reactions ranged individually from "nothing to forgive" to "I'll never forgive you." All of their reactions and how they felt were valid.I think we’re at a place where you are both correct given evidence at hand
But there’s not enough evidence to prove The other one wrong
One of the takeaways I wish people would arrive at is that ‘the way things were’ was probably not the best
What is most likely is that most of us engaged in sexual intimidation and maybe even sexual assault when we thought girls were ‘playing hard to get’
They were just socialized to go along instead of risking anger or the eventual social shaming
It was one of the hardest and most frightening things I've ever done. It's not easy for a caring and considerate person to admit and own up to the times that they were uncaring and inconsiderate toward another person in the pursuit of satisfying their own desires, especially if they are afraid they might be sued or go to jail for it.