Dating (30 Viewers)

[guidomerkinsrules]

I have not heard that one before.

It’s the posh way of saying it

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

Ahh dammit. thoughts of my recent ex are intruding. Something else I learned from our relationship is that I'm still a romantic. We sent those early morning/late evening texts @CapitalCitySaint referenced. Just "Hi, good morning! I hope you have a great day" or " I loved our talk tonight, sleep well"

Our first date was the day we met, and at its end we stood in her kitchen and I kissed her. It was like stepping on a live wire. The sex was…wonderful and passionate. During one interlude at my hose we knocked all the pictures crooked on one living room wall. I still have not straightened them

Vivid memories of sleeping entwined with her, our faces inches apart. She did not snore, but slept with her mouth slightly open and took deep, slow breaths. She was captivating. I would look at her and kiss her softly.

For our second date I went to her house and we cooked Cajun salmon, rice, and asparagus. we drank some wine and walked her dog. During the walk, she took my hand and stopped, looked me in the eye and said "I really like you" We wrapped around each other on her couch and watched "Analyze This" with Robert DeNiro and Billy Crystal. Before I left her house that night, we agreed we only wanted to see each other to find out where the road would take us.

I can remember exactly the feel, sight, and smell of her. She had long, curly reddish-brown hair that fell halfway down her back. Beautiful figure, unbelievable she was 49 with 3 full-grown kids. During a walk in a local park we we kissed until our lips were chapped, and that happened more than one time. We talked almost every day, saw each other during the week, and said "I Love You" after two weeks.

We made plans, albeit vague, for the future. Then just like that it was gone, causing me to wonder if it ever truly was. A month and half later, yes it truly was. She was just to wounded to sustain the relationship, there was no malice.

I'm glad for the experience. Some go their entire lives without a relationship like this. Painful end but a beautiful beginning and middle.

Wait, I just read this post again in its entirety.

Y’all met and she let you in her house the same day you met her? Kissed in the park until you had chapped lips?

All that comes to mind when I read this was to burst out in song with Frank Ocean’s Sierra Leone when he says “we’re behaving like teenagers” lol

Lol this was a lot dude.

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

Love does have a different timetable for different folks.

There’s love and then there’s being reckless.

 

[Madmarsha]

Lol this was a lot dude.

It was kinda "Dear, Saints Report Forum ...."

 

[guidomerkinsrules]

There’s love and then there’s being reckless.

In no way are those mutually exclusive concepts

 

[guidomerkinsrules]

It was kinda "Dear, Saints Report Forum ...."

wait wait wait
Terps was genuinely sharing his experience and y’all want to clown him?

 

[Det. Brees]

I went through this about 12 years ago. I found online dating to be horrible. I met plenty of women some for a few dates, but we are older now and know what we are looking for and we can easily move away from "non matches". however. I found way to many people cheating on spouses. The worst was dating someone for 2 months and finding out she was married. However there are so many way now to check out someone to determine if they are married that can be avoided.

good luck, take your time. enjoy life.

 

[Madmarsha]

wait wait wait
Terps was genuinely sharing his experience and y’all want to clown him?

I knew you guys would think I was making fun. I'm not actually making fun @saintmdterps. I'm slightly more empathetic than that.

Now, if YOU post something like that @guidomerkinsrules , I'd be slightly LESS empathetic than that. We have a friendly feud to keep up after all.

 

[Mr. Blue Sky]

The worst was dating someone for 2 months and finding out she was married.

Recently found out that a woman ive been seeing has had a live-in boyfriend the entire time we’ve been together.. Luckily i wasnt that into her and she had been acting a little too clingy; if that were not the case, and if id had strong feelings for her- id be devastated… still, the sheer depth and variety of the lies she had to tell is pretty breathtaking.. it’s remarkable actually.. im kinda curious how she pulled it off, but not curious enough to re-establish contact and ask her .. just gonna take it as a lesson, and live and learn .. more than anyhting, i feel bad for the boyfriend, who has no idea his live-in gf (and possibly fiancee’ ?) is basically living a double life .

 

[guidomerkinsrules]

I knew you guys would think I was making fun. I'm not actually making fun @saintmdterps. I'm slightly more empathetic than that.

Ah, then I retract maybe 37% of the charge

Now, if YOU post something like that @guidomerkinsrules , I'd be slightly LESS empathetic than that. We have a friendly feud to keep up after all.

It’s our like language

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

wait wait wait
Terps was genuinely sharing his experience and y’all want to clown him?

Not at all. But I do have a bad habit of pointing out the obvious- when I’m not the one in the situation. It’s hard to see things for what they are and balance your perspective when you’re the one in it. Also, when it comes to red flags in relationships that are new, I am an expert because I’ve already done all that ish myself. I am happy to say that I no longer fall for these traps. The pendulum has probably swing a little too far in the opposite direction for me but it does save me a lot of time and unnecessary grief.

Any feedback provided is out of love for our Saints Brethren

 

[guidomerkinsrules]

Recently found out that a woman ive been seeing has had a live-in boyfriend the entire time we’ve been together.. Luckily i wasnt that into her and she had been coming on too strong; if that were not the case, and if id had strong feelings for her- id be devastated… still, the sheer depth and variety of the lies she had to tell is pretty breathtaking.. it’s remarkable actually.. im kinda curious how she pulled it off, but not curious enough to re-establish contact and ask her .. just gonna take it as a lesson, and live and learn .

I’d dated a woman who was separated from her husband but bc of NYC rent they still lived together
In time I realized that she was using me to help cushion her fall
all in all I didn’t mind

 

[saintmdterps]

I have not heard that one before.

Fixt. Freudian slip...

 

[saintmdterps]

Wait, I just read this post again in its entirety.

Y’all met and she let you in her house the same day you met her? Kissed in the park until you had chapped lips?

All that comes to mind when I read this was to burst out in song with Frank Ocean’s Sierra Leone when he says “we’re behaving like teenagers” lol

Lol this was a lot dude.

I do real estate signings as a side job. She was a client at 8am on a Saturday morning. We hit it off and went out that evening. Yes it was reckless. I needed it and wanted it after being in the Sahara for years

Splitting hairs maybe, but rash, impetuous, or impulsive may all be better terms.

 

[Mr. Blue Sky]

I’d dated a woman who was separated from her husband but bc of NYC rent they still lived together
In time I realized that she was using me to help cushion her fall
all in all I didn’t mind

Yeah that’s not so bad.. in my situation, i minded b/c of the deception.. she finally came clean at the end (after i sorta busted her) and said she’d been dating the guy for two years and living together for a year .. “Oh”, i thought “THAT”s why she never invited me over !”… duh.. i thought b/c i live in the city and she’s in the burbs, she just liked coming here to hang out lol…. We actually had a few weeks where we were “on a break” and in that time i was dating someone else- but not at the same time, and DEFINITELY not living together .