Dating (28 Viewers)

[saintmdterps]

There’s love and then there’s being reckless.

You do realize you're talking to an ex-drag racer? If I had the money I'd be at the track this weekend.

Adrenaline rushes take many forms. Falling in love fits into those same dopamine receptors. Looks like it's back to the 12-step program...

 

[saintmdterps]

Not at all. But I do have a bad habit of pointing out the obvious- when I’m not the one in the situation. It’s hard to see things for what they are and balance your perspective when you’re the one in it. Also, when it comes to red flags in relationships that are new, I am an expert because I’ve already done all that ish myself. I am happy to say that I no longer fall for these traps. The pendulum has probably swing a little too far in the opposite direction for me but it does save me a lot of time and unnecessary grief.

Any feedback provided is out of love for our Saints Brethren

And yet you're the one who handed out her phone number to a parking lot dude she just met whose only immediate qualification was good teeth. That was reckless behavior

I appreciate what all y'all say, and the vein in which you say it. No offense intended and none taken.

 

[Madmarsha]

And yet you're the one who handed out her phone number to a parking lot dude with the good teeth she just met. That was reckless behavior

Even Jada thinks you've made a good point.

 

[sfidc3]

My point was only in the similar nature of the text, not the appropriateness of the text. He was way off base.

It’s been a long time since I did this. Yeah we jumped the gun. She led, I followed in that regard. After living in an emotional desert the last couple years of my marriage, this was like drinking from a fire hose.

Love does have a different timetable for different folks.

Though we were almost certainly doomed, it sure was fun while it lasted and had some beautiful moments

This is similar to an experience one of my best friends had.....he was married to a horrible woman, honestly, one of the worst persons I've ever met (male or female).....she was a control freak, had multiple issues, selfish to the point of trying to freeze him out of everything, I had to convince him to get a divorce lawyer.....they had 2 kids that were both college aged when it all went down, she couldn't have cared less about them....he was the parent that actually parented....

Once he did things got better for him almost immediately, and shortly after the divorce he met a woman I knew wasn't good for him but he had been as Terp said "in the desert for so long" it didn't matter.....it started, was good for him while it lasted and it ended.....

I'm not one to judge, his were hard shoes to be in at the time....he came out of it mostly unscathed, which is what I was most concerned about and now he is fine, he reconnected with his 1st ever girlfriend and they started seeing each other over 4 years ago, still going strong.....she is literally the opposite of his ex.....I'm happy for him.....hope you find happiness soon to my man Terp.....

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

And yet you're the one who handed out her phone number to a parking lot dude with the good teeth she just met. That was reckless behavior

I appreciate what all y'all say, and the vein in which you say it. No offense intended and none taken.

Handing out a phone number is quite different than letting someone I don't know, know where I live and have them inside the place I live. This is how we end up dead.

I did google his phone number and learned that he is a real estate agent. Given what you just said above about your side gig....

He did have really great teeth. Like some of the nicest natural teeth I've ever seen. I had adult orthodontia so my appreciation of great teeth runs deep. LOL

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

Even Jada thinks you've made a good point.

Genuinely curious as to how exchanging phone numbers considered reckless?

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

If I had the money I'd be at the track this weekend.

You could always go back to work in corporate America

 

[saintmdterps]

It was kinda "Dear, Saints Report Forum ...."

I waffled on adding the physical stuff, then decided **** it

 

[saintmdterps]

Handing out a phone number is quite different than letting someone I don't know, know where I live and have them inside the place I live. This is how we end up dead.

I did google his phone number and learned that he is a real estate agent. Given what you just said above about your side gig....

He did have really great teeth. Like some of the nicest natural teeth I've ever seen. I had adult orthodontia so my appreciation of great teeth runs deep. LOL

In order to do my side job I have to pass a background check every year and maintain 3 different licenses (notary public, title producer, E&O insurance-not really a license but they won't give it to you if you're a screw-up) Before I show up, the company emails my name and photo to the client. Many times we do the signings (new home purchases, refinance) in a neutral location like Starbucks. It's entirely up to the client where he/she feels comfortable. Most are fine doing the signings at their home. I've completed over 200 with no complaints

I'm just saying that for someone who is so famously reserved, that counted as somewhat reckless behavior. For me it would not be reckless, it would be par for the course

I hear you on the teeth as I stare at two caps, two veneers, and a crown implant. This consultation will occur Monday and I dread it.

 

[saintmdterps]

You could always go back to work in corporate America

It may come to that, and my reward to myself would be going back to racing. I loved it.

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

In order to do my side job I have to pass a background check every year and maintain 3 different licenses (notary public, title producer, E&O insurance) Before I show up, the company emails my name and photo to the client. Many times we do the signings (new home purchases, refinance) in a neutral location like Starbucks. It's entirely up to the client where he/she feels comfortable.

I'm just saying that for someone who is so famously reserved, that counted as somewhat reckless behavior. For me it would not be reckless, it would be par for the course

I hear you on the teeth as I stare at two caps, two veneers, and a crown implant. This consultation will occur Monday and I dread it.

I mean I consider myself reasonably cautious. A simple phone number exchange is harmless (so far). I've read about other people being harassed and the person starts calling them from other numbers, etc. I know you can generate a google number and honestly, maybe I should do that.

Just because you passed a background check doesn't mean you're not a psycho....just means you haven't been caught yet. LOL

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

It may come to that, and my reward to myself would be going back to racing. I loved it.

Avoid at all costs!

 

[Madmarsha]

Genuinely curious as to how exchanging phone numbers considered reckless?

I actually didn't agree with the use of "reckless" when you first said it in regards to SaintMDterps. Reckless seems a little strong. But I'm having trouble finding a different word. Maybe impetuous?

But to go further as far as giving digits to a stranger. There are two options: Give the digits versus don't give the digits. Not giving is the one that ensures no further contact, hence the "safer" choice. That's all I meant.

 

[Madmarsha]

It may come to that, and my reward to myself would be going back to racing. I loved it.

I seriously don't remember you mentioning it. Was this in Maryland?

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

I'm just saying that for someone who is so famously reserved, that counted as somewhat reckless behavior. For me it would not be reckless, it would be par for the course

On a few occasions, I have given men who have asked for my # (once at the mall and another time at a restaurant) my work cell. If they look it up, they will not be able to tie it back to me and if I get harassed, it's easy enough to have IT get me a new number.