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[saintmdterps]

It was kinda "Dear, Saints Report Forum ...."

I waffled on adding the physical stuff, then decided **** it

 

[saintmdterps]

Handing out a phone number is quite different than letting someone I don't know, know where I live and have them inside the place I live. This is how we end up dead.

I did google his phone number and learned that he is a real estate agent. Given what you just said above about your side gig....

He did have really great teeth. Like some of the nicest natural teeth I've ever seen. I had adult orthodontia so my appreciation of great teeth runs deep. LOL

In order to do my side job I have to pass a background check every year and maintain 3 different licenses (notary public, title producer, E&O insurance-not really a license but they won't give it to you if you're a screw-up) Before I show up, the company emails my name and photo to the client. Many times we do the signings (new home purchases, refinance) in a neutral location like Starbucks. It's entirely up to the client where he/she feels comfortable. Most are fine doing the signings at their home. I've completed over 200 with no complaints

I'm just saying that for someone who is so famously reserved, that counted as somewhat reckless behavior. For me it would not be reckless, it would be par for the course

I hear you on the teeth as I stare at two caps, two veneers, and a crown implant. This consultation will occur Monday and I dread it.

 

[saintmdterps]

You could always go back to work in corporate America

It may come to that, and my reward to myself would be going back to racing. I loved it.

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

In order to do my side job I have to pass a background check every year and maintain 3 different licenses (notary public, title producer, E&O insurance) Before I show up, the company emails my name and photo to the client. Many times we do the signings (new home purchases, refinance) in a neutral location like Starbucks. It's entirely up to the client where he/she feels comfortable.

I'm just saying that for someone who is so famously reserved, that counted as somewhat reckless behavior. For me it would not be reckless, it would be par for the course

I hear you on the teeth as I stare at two caps, two veneers, and a crown implant. This consultation will occur Monday and I dread it.

I mean I consider myself reasonably cautious. A simple phone number exchange is harmless (so far). I've read about other people being harassed and the person starts calling them from other numbers, etc. I know you can generate a google number and honestly, maybe I should do that.

Just because you passed a background check doesn't mean you're not a psycho....just means you haven't been caught yet. LOL

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

It may come to that, and my reward to myself would be going back to racing. I loved it.

Avoid at all costs!

 

[Madmarsha]

Genuinely curious as to how exchanging phone numbers considered reckless?

I actually didn't agree with the use of "reckless" when you first said it in regards to SaintMDterps. Reckless seems a little strong. But I'm having trouble finding a different word. Maybe impetuous?

But to go further as far as giving digits to a stranger. There are two options: Give the digits versus don't give the digits. Not giving is the one that ensures no further contact, hence the "safer" choice. That's all I meant.

 

[Madmarsha]

It may come to that, and my reward to myself would be going back to racing. I loved it.

I seriously don't remember you mentioning it. Was this in Maryland?

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

I'm just saying that for someone who is so famously reserved, that counted as somewhat reckless behavior. For me it would not be reckless, it would be par for the course

On a few occasions, I have given men who have asked for my # (once at the mall and another time at a restaurant) my work cell. If they look it up, they will not be able to tie it back to me and if I get harassed, it's easy enough to have IT get me a new number.

 

[saintmdterps]

I actually didn't agree with the use of "reckless" when you first said it in regards to SaintMDterps. Reckless seems a little strong. But I'm having trouble finding a different word. Maybe impetuous?

But to go further as far as giving digits to a stranger. There are two options: Give the digits versus don't give the digits. Not giving is the one that ensures no further contact, hence the "safer" choice. That's all I meant.

I knew what potential pitfalls existed. She told me on the first date about the abuse and her decision to not seek counseling. Yes, it was impetuous to move forward that quickly given the information I had. I took my lumps and I'll move on. The memories will remain.

 

[Madmarsha]

......

And I've certainly got lots of "there but for the grace ..." examples that roam around in my head that range from "reckless" to "devil-may-care" decisions.

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

I actually didn't agree with the use of "reckless" when you first said it in regards to SaintMDterps. Reckless seems a little strong. But I'm having trouble finding a different word. Maybe impetuous?

But to go further as far as giving digits to a stranger. There are two options: Give the digits versus don't give the digits. Not giving is the one that ensures no further contact, hence the "safer" choice. That's all I meant.

Going into someone's home that you don't know always comes with risk. This is also how many men get robbed and beat up/killed. Sorry y'all, I watch a lot of crime shows. I know this isn't the norm and most people are good but you just never know when you'll end up a statistic.

There are organized (or maybe not so organized) crime rings where they use a woman to lure a man into 'their home' and then rob him. Although they wouldn't get very far with Terps financially (based on the job satisfaction thread comments) people have been killed over less than $5.

Granted, I said that before he revealed the circumstances under which he met her.

 

[saintmdterps]

I seriously don't remember you mentioning it. Was this in Maryland?

US 13 Dragway in Delmar, De.

US 13 Dragway

www.delawareracing.com

Nothing heavy duty and I didn't run NHRA sanctioned races because that's a much bigger commitment of both time and money. When there wasn't a sanctioned race, they would open the track to all us weekend warriors who just wanted to see how fast we were. For $5 per pass, you could run whatcha brung. I got a 10.9 second 1/4 mile @ 125mph on my Kawasaki 750 Turbo, and ran low to mid-12's @ ~110 with the Camaro. The goal was to not break anything. Sometimes that bar was too high. I loved it. We all helped each other in the pit if something did break.

I've also done the NASCAR driving experience and hit 170 on the straightaway. I was high for 3 days on the adrenaline. When I got home, I realized I would turn right around and drive back up if they called and said they had more track time. Matter of fact I'd do it right now.

The point of this is not to revisit my racing days but only to point out the similarities in racing and falling in love. It's something that obviously I need to be aware of going forward.

 

[Madmarsha]

I knew what potential pitfalls existed. She told me on the first date about the abuse and her decision to not seek counseling. Yes, it was impetuous to move forward that quickly given the information I had. I took my lumps and I'll move on. The memories will remain.

We know you're a big boy. But we also know you've been "out of the game".

 

[saintmdterps]

Going into someone's home that you don't know always comes with risk. This is also how many men get robbed and beat up/killed. Sorry y'all, I watch a lot of crime shows. I know this isn't the norm and most people are good but you just never know when you'll end up a statistic.

There are organized (or maybe not so organized) crime rings where they use a woman to lure a man into 'their home' and then rob him. Although they wouldn't get very far with Terps financially (based on the job satisfaction thread comments) people have been killed over less than $5.

Granted, I said that before he revealed the circumstances under which he met her.

The concerns you mention have crossed my mind. Signing agents are licensed, bonded, and have the background checks. No one does any sort of check on the clients.

Yeah they won't get nothin' from me