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[guidomerkinsrules]

Definitely crazy, farang!

You’ve put her in ‘every situation’ except the one of time and real life. It’s early days. Y’all are on honeymoon. Maybe it will last maybe it won’t… time will tell.

CCS with all y’all meet cute stories

 

[Madmarsha]

I’m learning that white men on this forum have a thing for Asian women.

Also for dudes named Skip with $1.5 million

 

[guidomerkinsrules]

I rarely wear cologne. But when I'm feeling a little nostalgic, I go for the Polo. I need another bottle as I ran out quite a while back.

2 types of bars I went to in HS
Uptown boys wearing Polo
Downtown girls smoking cloves

 

[guidomerkinsrules]

I’ve been avoiding this thread since I already have a public life and can keep little private but fork it.

I was in a long relationship, 23 years and have two kids. My significant other lost her mother to suicide 8 years ago snd she spiraled into deep depression and refused to get help. The last 4 years have been brutal and I hung around in basically a roommate situation out of convenience since I’m rarely home and we have kids. I moved out to a sheetty apartment a few months ago and had pretty much decided to be single forever and however I liked.

Fast forward to the beginning of November I flew to Asia for a typhoon and while there decided to hop to a few countries while the weather was slow. In Thailand I met a woman on the second day. Completely organic, chance meeting, she speaks decent English and we start chatting.

The conversation was intense despite the subject being random chit chat. I asked her to dinner, was clear I was just going to be there a few days and outside of having some fun had no intention.

This woman shows up at my hotel that night dressed out, smoking hot while just being so relaxed and funny it was hard not to really enjoy. We had a great night. The next day I had to work and we texted a few times. I showed interest and wanted to see her again but that day was terrible. She kind of got generic at that point and it carried into the next day. Then she sends sends me a text “if you want to see me, just text me and I’ll come to you”. I replied I want to see you, come to me. Two hours later she showed up and took me to some temples, hit some street food, had a couple beers and just everything was lined up. We spent the next 48 hours together. I’ve never experienced anything like this girl. She is checking every box and then some. Our conversations had gotten deep and we really got to know each other fast.

At this point I had to see if something was there. Asked her to go to Bangkok with me for 2 days before I flew out. We drove the 4 hours and changed the scene completely and the energy was the same no matter the situation. Malls, rooftop bars, restaurants, walking the streets, movie theater, hotel room, did not matter. I told her if she wanted to hop a flight to Chiang Mai with me I would push my trip home a week. She did. Once again changed the scene completely. Hit festivals, a candlelight dinner, jumped into the mountains, etc. Drunk, sober and she even wanted to try weed so we got high. Nothing changed.

When it was time to fly home, she told me that she didnt think I would come back to see her. She said she would wait 90 days for me to come back but wasnt going to waste her time in a relationship of maybe. At this point I could bail and forever remember the two weeks or commit. I felt if I did not at least try that I would wake up with what if questions every day forever.

13 days later I met her in Japan, we jumped off to Vietnam and everything was like we had never left. Since then I’ve gone back one more time and even met her family. I’ve never had a woman treat me like this. Never an argument, always sweet and thoughtful. Constantly makes me laugh and supports me when I was up all night working. Of course I treat her like a queen.

Background on her.
35, never married. Has a 10 year old son with a father that bailed before birth.
She has worked quite a few jobs in hospitality (airport, hotels, etc). No debt, some savings, owns some land. No desire to live in US permanently. Wants to build a house near her parents farm and store then makes sure her son gets the best opportunity possible. She hasnt been in a relationship for 10 years. Doesn’t drink, smoke, gamble, etc.

I’m flying her to Panama and will basically go live there for a month or two so time zone and proximity to US makes it easier for me to work.

She quit her job and starts nursing school in March on my suggestion. Plan is to get work visa and spend 6 months in US to make sure she likes it. Then we would spit time.

It feels crazy. I know Thailand is known for women that game western men. It is also known for western men and Thai women having amazing relationships.

I’ve put her in every situation possible to see if I was missing something. I wasnt looking for this. It happened and happened fast. Now we have to pump the brakes some while she gets nursing certificate and starts visa process. If I’m crazy, feel free to tell me.

Ok phew - I’d actually had this question for awhile
Thanks for sharing

 

[DaveXA]

CCS with all y’all meet cure stories

I read "meat" instead of meet.

 

[saintmdterps]

CCS with all y’all meet cure stories

Ahh just envy...
Sure was fun while it lasted.

 

[guidomerkinsrules]

I read "meat" instead of meet.

Well I’m sure misspelling cute/cure didn’t help

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

CCS with all y’all meet cute stories

I laugh at them because these are exactly the type of situations I used to dive into blindly drunk in lust after my divorce when I was young and dumb. Now others are doing it after decades long relationships/marriage just at an older age. I already know where most of these situations are headed.

For me, some were fun and definitely worth the trouble that came with them. Others were definitely full of red flags where I should have dipped immediately & would have preferred not to learn those lessons.

 

[Mr. Blue Sky]

My trainer s 27. He has it bad for Latina and Asian women with fake lashes, lip fillers and big butts/BBLs. He’s really attractive himself, former college athlete. He ends up disappointed almost every time he tries to date these broads & I keep pointing out nice but more natural looking women with careers (aka not real estate agents, lash techs, dental assistants) at the gym and telling him “see, this is the kind of woman you need”. He agrees but just can’t stop chasing hoes.

The heart wants what it wants….


Seriously though, i also dont get the whole fake lips, filler, big butt thing, i prefer more natural- but then again, im Gen X and i think younger guys are more into that stuff .

 

[Mr. Blue Sky]

A lot of men may appear clean at first glance but they aren’t. They wash clothes, leave them in the washer too long then dry them anyway and they stink, they don’t kept their nails trimmed & clean. They don’t floss their teeth, brush once per day if that & never go to their 2x annual FREE dental cleanings that dental insurance provides. A lot of men need to be using antibacterial soap bc they reek of BO. They wear nasty old man cologne or just way too much cologne in general. They don’t keep their hair cut or at least clean and neat. Their house/apartments and cars (if they have them) are dirty.

Geez, i am SITTING RIGHT HERE .

 

[Mr. Blue Sky]

I’m learning that white men on this forum have a thing for Asian women.

CCS i am replying to a third post of yours in a row since i just woke up and am catching up on this thread…. I cant speak for any other guy here, but as for myself- i have never been into Asian women.. matter of fact, most of my life i was kinda in the camp of ‘i dont get it’.. i had buddies who dated only Asian women , exclusively, mostly friends of mine who live in California.. it’s not that I necessarily thought Asian women were unattractive, it’s just that I preferred the ‘all-American type’, blonde brunette or redhead didnt matter.. then again, you really cant help who you fall for, sometimes you have a checklist or whatever, then you meet someone and y’all click and your list goes right out the window .. however.. now that i am 50 yrs old, most of the women i was meeting in America- and i will paint with a very broad brush here, and im speaking in generalities- most of them were older and overweight with 2 or 3 kids and plenty of emotional baggage from bad marriage(s)… here in Asia the women i am meeting (again speaking in generalities) are beautiful, younger (the last two women ive dated have been 34 and 37 , respectively) and more feminine and petite.. in America, in my experience- as a guy my age or older, you almost have to be a multi-millionaire to get that type of attention from attractive women .. and even then, you are generally going to have to work pretty hard for it- and i already have a full-time job …. Long story short- when it comes to Asian women, i now ‘get’ all the fuss .

 

[saintmdterps]

I laugh at them because these are exactly the type of situations I used to dive into blindly drunk in lust after my divorce when I was young and dumb. Now others are doing it after decades long relationships/marriage just at an older age. I already know where most of these situations are headed.

For me, some were fun and definitely worth the trouble that came with them. Others were definitely full of red flags where I should have dipped immediately & would have preferred not to learn those lessons.

Pfft. I did this in my 20’s, 30’s, and 40’s, now again in my 60’s. I spent 29 years of my life in two marriages that both started with these same fireworks. I never outgrew the need for strong chemistry. That this chemistry got me in a certain amount of trouble was not a deterrent

 

[Mr. Blue Sky]

I’ve been avoiding this thread since I already have a public life and can keep little private but fork it.

I was in a long relationship, 23 years and have two kids. My significant other lost her mother to suicide 8 years ago snd she spiraled into deep depression and refused to get help. The last 4 years have been brutal and I hung around in basically a roommate situation out of convenience since I’m rarely home and we have kids. I moved out to a sheetty apartment a few months ago and had pretty much decided to be single forever and however I liked.

Fast forward to the beginning of November I flew to Asia for a typhoon and while there decided to hop to a few countries while the weather was slow. In Thailand I met a woman on the second day. Completely organic, chance meeting, she speaks decent English and we start chatting.

The conversation was intense despite the subject being random chit chat. I asked her to dinner, was clear I was just going to be there a few days and outside of having some fun had no intention.

This woman shows up at my hotel that night dressed out, smoking hot while just being so relaxed and funny it was hard not to really enjoy. We had a great night. The next day I had to work and we texted a few times. I showed interest and wanted to see her again but that day was terrible. She kind of got generic at that point and it carried into the next day. Then she sends sends me a text “if you want to see me, just text me and I’ll come to you”. I replied I want to see you, come to me. Two hours later she showed up and took me to some temples, hit some street food, had a couple beers and just everything was lined up. We spent the next 48 hours together. I’ve never experienced anything like this girl. She is checking every box and then some. Our conversations had gotten deep and we really got to know each other fast.

At this point I had to see if something was there. Asked her to go to Bangkok with me for 2 days before I flew out. We drove the 4 hours and changed the scene completely and the energy was the same no matter the situation. Malls, rooftop bars, restaurants, walking the streets, movie theater, hotel room, did not matter. I told her if she wanted to hop a flight to Chiang Mai with me I would push my trip home a week. She did. Once again changed the scene completely. Hit festivals, a candlelight dinner, jumped into the mountains, etc. Drunk, sober and she even wanted to try weed so we got high. Nothing changed.

When it was time to fly home, she told me that she didnt think I would come back to see her. She said she would wait 90 days for me to come back but wasnt going to waste her time in a relationship of maybe. At this point I could bail and forever remember the two weeks or commit. I felt if I did not at least try that I would wake up with what if questions every day forever.

13 days later I met her in Japan, we jumped off to Vietnam and everything was like we had never left. Since then I’ve gone back one more time and even met her family. I’ve never had a woman treat me like this. Never an argument, always sweet and thoughtful. Constantly makes me laugh and supports me when I was up all night working. Of course I treat her like a queen.

Background on her.
35, never married. Has a 10 year old son with a father that bailed before birth.
She has worked quite a few jobs in hospitality (airport, hotels, etc). No debt, some savings, owns some land. No desire to live in US permanently. Wants to build a house near her parents farm and store then makes sure her son gets the best opportunity possible. She hasnt been in a relationship for 10 years. Doesn’t drink, smoke, gamble, etc.

I’m flying her to Panama and will basically go live there for a month or two so time zone and proximity to US makes it easier for me to work.

She quit her job and starts nursing school in March on my suggestion. Plan is to get work visa and spend 6 months in US to make sure she likes it. Then we would spit time.

It feels crazy. I know Thailand is known for women that game western men. It is also known for western men and Thai women having amazing relationships.

I’ve put her in every situation possible to see if I was missing something. I wasnt looking for this. It happened and happened fast. Now we have to pump the brakes some while she gets nursing certificate and starts visa process. If I’m crazy, feel free to tell me.

Ordinarily i would tell someone in ur situation to proceed with caution, but it sounds like you’re already doing that.. Life is short, i think you are correct in striking a balance between ‘being careful’ and yet still ‘going for it’…. I dont have a ton of experience with Asian women- i dated one woman last year in the Philippines, and two this year here in Thailand (as I mentioned earlier, one turned out to be a rotten apple, but i wont let her spoil the bunch)…. The one thing ill say is , as you mentioned, these women do have a reputation for ‘playing the long game’ when it comes to farangs; again though, i think that applies to a certain subset of Thai women, not the majority.. to me it’s equivalent to the guys who come here to Bangkok and dive right into the bargirl scene, and the party scene , and massage parlors et al.. sure there are a substantial number of those, but they kinda give the rest of us a bad name.. speaking only for myself, ive never “paid for it”, outside of buying dinner lol, so as they say we all ‘pay for it’ in some way…. BUT i dont judge those who use prostitutes or whatever …. i just hope people aren’t ignorant to the realities that plenty of us here are looking for quality women with an education, a decent job, and yes- attractiveness as part of the package ……….. SO i wont lump all Thai women into the category of manipulators, just be aware that those women are out there as well .

 

[Paul]

All I know is that when I was married I always had my wedding ring on. The only time I took it off was surfing because I was afraid of losing it in the ocean. That damn thing was a bigger chick magnet than the MGB I had in my 20's.

"Ooohhh, you're married? Let me help you with that" Is it the challenge? Wtf? I didn't cheat when I was married despite the opportunities. A woman being married was a hard line in the sand which I did not cross. I dated when my ex and I separated, and was honest that we were separated, not divorced.

Truth. There are lots of bold women in the world. The only time I take my ring off is when I’m moisturizing my hands in the morning and evening. But man, a lot of women really couldn’t care less about my ring or even when my wife and I are out together. I’ve got stories, but nothing earth-shattering or unusual and I don’t want to come off as bragging.
I’ve been very fortunate to have will power and I’ve not given into the temptation - it’s really not worth it. While not perfect, I have a good thing with my wife and I don’t want to mess that up, and definitely don’t want to hurt her or our kids.

 

[CapitalCitySaint]

Geez, i am SITTING RIGHT HERE .

For the record, I generally just assume most dudes on here (& the internet in general) are fat, dirty cave dwellers until proven otherwise.