Why do women do this? Part 2 (2 Viewers)

[Firecross]

So let me ask some of you who are a lot more wiser than I am. What are the chances she ever talks to me again? It is my hope in time she will learn to realize it was for the best. I felt completely justified in doing what I did, I miss the hell out of her but she made her choice, I made mine, the rest is left up to fate, it is what it is and nothing could have changed the outcome.

Its kinda hard being in a situation where you have to let someone go that you really think the world of but for whatever reason the situation didn't work out in your favor. It is hard to live down, I think about it a lot though.

 

[Wisdom Tooth]

So let me ask some of you who are a lot more wiser than I am. What are the chances she ever talks to me again? It is my hope in time she will learn to realize it was for the best. I felt completely justified in doing what I did, I miss the hell out of her but she made her choice, I made mine, the rest is left up to fate, it is what it is and nothing could have changed the outcome.

Its kinda hard being in a situation where you have to let someone go that you really think the world of but for whatever reason the situation didn't work out in your favor. It is hard to live down, I think about it a lot though.

I say let her walk and get ready for someone who's worth it. You deserve someone who will light up like a Christmas tree when they see your number calling on their phone. She picked someone else over you and you deserve someone who will make you #1 for themselves. No one should be made to feel like somebody's consolation prize.

 

[porculator]

She does it because she can. If you don't like it, she'll find some other **** in under 24 hours. You want someone who thinks more like you, she's going to look more like you also. Life's full of choices. Pick sane or hot, but you don't get both unless you're really rich.

Did you just write that or did you quote it? Either way, bravo. But even moreso if you wrote it.

 

[Saintsi]

I'm surprised you even got a woman to pick a place to eat. It's always "I don't care you pick", but they do care. They just want you to name off 100 places until they pick the one they want to go to.

 

[porculator]

I'm surprised you even got a woman to pick a place to eat. It's always "I don't care you pick", but they do care. They just want you to name off 100 places until they pick the one they want to go to.

Thats the worst. I just started saying Taco Bell every time so she'd have to offer an alternative.

 

[FLEA]

Stay thirsty my friend.

 

[SaintsFanInLA]

But what IS that all about?

"I have to cancel our date, there is an emergency that only I can handle and it's a life or death matter'

"He will pay for that"

Saintsfan, what do they say do explain themselves when you have those discussions with them?

It always ended with them saying, "But that's different." I would ask how and they would just say, "It just is." Women.

Thats the worst. I just started saying Taco Bell every time so she'd have to offer an alternative.

This used to drive me nuts.

Me: I am hungry. Wanna grab something to eat?
Her: Yeah, I'm hungry too. Where should we go?

Me: We can go wherever you want. (Literally meaning EXACTLY that.)
Her: No, you pick. (Not meaning that AT ALL.)

Me: Ok. Outback Steakhouse.
Her: Not feeling that today.

Me: Red Lobster.
Her: I don't want seafood.

Me: Popeyes.
Her: Ughhh!

Me: Olive Garden.
Her: No.

Me: Why don't you just tell me what you want?
Her: I want you to pick.

Me: No you don't. I just gave you 4 choices, you shot each one down. We would save a lot of time if you just tell me what you want. You want to give me the illusion of choice, when really, you ALREADY know what you want. Just tell me what you want.
Her: I want a salad from "_______________".


In my head, I was thinking, man why doesn't she just say from jump street that she wants a salad from "___________________"? My guess is, some women don't want to seem controlling or demanding so they make you THINK you have a choice or make it seem like you are the one who actually chose the place, since you suggested this.

 

[Firecross]

It always ended with them saying, "But that's different." I would ask how and they would just say, "It just is." Women.

This used to drive me nuts.

Me: I am hungry. Wanna grab something to eat?
Her: Yeah, I'm hungry too. Where should we go?

Me: We can go wherever you want. (Literally meaning EXACTLY that.)
Her: No, you pick. (Not meaning that AT ALL.)

Me: Ok. Outback Steakhouse.
Her: Not feeling that today.

Me: Red Lobster.
Her: I don't want seafood.

Me: Popeyes.
Her: Ughhh!

Me: Olive Garden.
Her: No.

Me: Why don't you just tell me what you want?
Her: I want you to pick.

Me: No you don't. I just gave you 4 choices, you shot each one down. We would save a lot of time if you just tell me what you want. You want to give me the illusion of choice, when really, you ALREADY know what you want. Just tell me what you want.
Her: I want a salad from "_______________".


In my head, I was thinking, man why doesn't she just say from jump street that she wants a salad from "___________________"? My guess is, some women don't want to seem controlling or demanding so they make you THINK you have a choice or make it seem like you are the one who actually chose the place, since you suggested this.

LOL my mom is the master at that, it drives me fricking nuts for family dinners.

Me: So what do you want for dinner?
Mom: Anything, It doesn't matter.
Me: Be specific, what do you want?
Mom: Anything! I don't care.

Picks up pizza from papa johns.

Mom: I CAN'T EAT THIS **** she flips out ***

She obviously knows what she wanted to eat, why not just come out and say it? lol

Its such a cruel game, I swear.

 

[Moosegrits]

No offense, but you're from Chalmette, right?
Try dating outside the parish

yeah date a girl from Kenner.

 

[Cjjr72984]

Thread is too funny. Men in here saying women are borderline nutcases and your average woman thinks all men are pigs ( or dumb*****).

Makes me wonder how so many people date in the first place.

 

[NolaDome]

Best Advice: (found on a bathroom wall at Bogie's)

"No matter how pretty or good she looks right now, someone...somewhere else is sick of her sh*t..."

 

[BigRonJon]

No offense, but you're from Chalmette, right?
Try dating outside the parish

kennah brah?

 

[LKN H20Girl]

So let me ask some of you who are a lot more wiser than I am. What are the chances she ever talks to me again? It is my hope in time she will learn to realize it was for the best. I felt completely justified in doing what I did, I miss the hell out of her but she made her choice, I made mine, the rest is left up to fate, it is what it is and nothing could have changed the outcome.

Its kinda hard being in a situation where you have to let someone go that you really think the world of but for whatever reason the situation didn't work out in your favor. It is hard to live down, I think about it a lot though.

IMO, she expected you to stick around, be her should to cry on and give her confidence with the new guy. If it didn't work out with him, she'd dangle a little carrott of hope your way getting you to rebuild her lost confidence due to rejection. Then she'd find someone else to chase and repeat the cycle. All the while, you just become increasingly frustrated and feel worse about yourself.

You ruined her fallback plan.

 

[Firecross]

IMO, she expected you to stick around, be her should to cry on and give her confidence with the new guy. If it didn't work out with him, she'd dangle a little carrott of hope your way getting you to rebuild her lost confidence due to rejection. Then she'd find someone else to chase and repeat the cycle. All the while, you just become increasingly frustrated and feel worse about yourself.

You ruined her fallback plan.

Yeah, I figured that, I mean I wondered why I was being kept around. I think it was more of keeping her options open and I was gonna be a last resort. I think it was pretty sinister on her part now that I think about it. At the end of the day I know I am better than she is because I would have never done that to someone, I would have been upfront about it. I really hope it snowballs with the guy she's chasing and kicks herself for screwing up what she had, she doesn't even know how good she had it.

If the unfortunate event ever comes around where she does try to come back around trying to get back into my good graces because it snowballed with the said guy she's going to be in for such a rude awakening. I will demand to know certain things, let her know she has forever lost my trust and will not ever get it back.

 

[Geldo]

This isn't just my girlfriend, this is every girl I've ever dated for any length of time going back to the 8th grade.

Here's the scenario:

I call her up

ME: "Hey, do you want to get together for dinner tonight?"

HER: "Oh, I can't tonight. I have to work late" or "I'm not feeling well" or "I'm going out with some girlfriends tonight" or "I'm really tired, going to bed early" or " I have a big test, need to study" or whatever.

ME: "No problem, we'll do it another time" and it's no problem, I go find something else to do with myself.

The "why women do this" part is when the roles are reversed

HER: "Hey, do you want to get together for dinner tonight?"

ME: "Oh, I can't tonight. I have to work late" or "I'm not feeling well" or "I'm going out with some friends tonight" or "I'm really tired, going to bed early" or " I have a big test, need to study" or whatever.


SHE: (Proceeds to act like her whole world just collapsed, and then gets sad or mad or both)

WHY????

This is absoluteley true. I've seen it with all the girls I've dated, my friends' girlfriends, my female friends and coworkers do it to their boyfriends/husbands.

It confuses me.

You spend Super Bowl week in a jacuzzi with Elvis and three hot women and you complain about how fussy the opposite sex is....man, you just don't know when you got it made do you