Young couple goes on van tour of US, boy comes back with van - no girl (1 Viewer)

[HoustonSaint68]

[Sarcasm]I'm sure that made Gabby feel great. No matter what man she was interested in her father disapproved. No way that could cause confusion and an unhealthy self worth issue.[/sarcasm]

Wonder what other "jokes" dad always had for her....

I know that to a degree what I’m about to type undercuts my earlier assurance that I’m not victim blaming. And, I’m well aware that everyone handles grief in their own weird way. I fully expect if something strange happened to my wife - selfishly, the most important person in the world to me — I’d be super judged due to my lack of outward emotion. But I can guarantee you one thing — I ain’t going on TV with that blood sucker Dr. Phil.

So yeah, I’m quite a bit judgey about that move.

 

[HoustonSaint68]

Each is different. What may start as playful banter can quickly change and I've learned that over the years. Was he truly dialed in? Don't know. But as a father, it's imperative you learn these little things because it shapes their views as they become young adult women.

So my youngest is 27 and I was 21 when my eldest was born. And it is only now that I think I could do a really, really good job raising them — and then only if it was a pre-internet, pre-phone world.

But it’s pretty basic stuff to know that your teenage kids look more to their friends for affirmation and if you don’t show their friends basic human respect, you’re gonna drop even further down the list with them.

A parent bullying their kids’ friends? Really bad form to say the least.

 

[Tapxe]

I know that to a degree what I’m about to type undercuts my earlier assurance that I’m not victim blaming. And, I’m well aware that everyone handles grief in their own weird way. I fully expect if something strange happened to my wife - selfishly, the most important person in the world to me — I’d be super judged due to my lack of outward emotion. But I can guarantee you one thing — I ain’t going on TV with that blood sucker Dr. Phil.

So yeah, I’m quite a bit judgey about that move.

I was raised by a man who joked like that all the time. He's in hospice. I don't care. I'm leaning toward not even going to the funeral.

This man strikes me as very similar. More than likely Brian is Gabby's father figure. Controlling rage-aholic with dangerous tendencies and no concern for how he hurts others.

 

[guidomerkinsrules]

I don't think the answer to domestic abuse rests in the penal code. The penal code only works after a crime has been committed. We don't have "precrime". The answer rests with awareness and education of our young women to not enter into relationships with controlling partners. Gabby had resources which means Gabby had power! She just didn't know it.

ETA: Gabby as well as her parents had not yet even realized she was IN an abusive relationship.

The solution to gun crimes is to not get shot

 

[tomwaits]

The solution to gun crimes is to not get shot

Or shoot everybody so there is nobody left to commit a gun crime.
Of course monkeys may find the guns...
Then again, monkeys wouldn't have a legal system, so not technically a crime... but I don't want to over think this...

 

[SoggyBottomBoy]

So my youngest is 27 and I was 21 when my eldest was born. And it is only now that I think I could do a really, really good job raising them — and then only if it was a pre-internet, pre-phone world.

But it’s pretty basic stuff to know that your teenage kids look more to their friends for affirmation and if you don’t show their friends basic human respect, you’re gonna drop even further down the list with them.

A parent bullying their kids’ friends? Really bad form to say the least.

Grow a pair HoustonSaintessia68.

 

[DaveXA]

I will never understand (nor do I want to) what makes a man think they're so much better than a woman.

I'm a man and I agree 100%.

 

[Madmarsha]

So I saw this in the NY Post, so who knows how true it is, although they give it as a quote. To be very, very clear, I am not victim blaming and I quite literally would not wish the pain of losing a child on the worst person in the world. But it kinda makes you wonder about a few things.

I don’t have daughters so I have no clue how to raise a daughter to maximize her self-esteem in order to equip her to tell a controlling boyfriend to hit the bricks. But this doesn’t seem like an optimal approach:

“ Gabby Petito’s dad says he had a mocking nickname for his daughter’s boyfriend, Brian Laundrie, who is now a “person of interest’’ in her disappearance-turned-suspected death case.

Joseph Petito revealed that he’d refer to Brian as “Brianne,” according an episode of “Dr. Phil” that aired Monday.

“I’ve never actually liked any of Gabby’s boyfriends. I’ve never actually called any of them by their real name, ever,” said the dad, who is originally from Long Island.

“I always tried to use the female versions of the boyfriends’ names, just to intimidate them a little bit,” he said.

“They laughed,” Joseph Petito said. “Although as the years progressed, I think [Gabby] prepared them for when they met me.’’”

Yes, I saw it. The quotes are verbatim. I really like Joe but that's pretty douche-y. Not to mention, apparently it didn't work in Brian as a deterrent. I'd love to give Joe five minutes alone in a room with Brian. Brian's head would look like a meatball.

 

[Madmarsha]

I’m not suggesting that people need to feel sorry for men as a group,

I wouldn't really worry about that happening.

 

[Madmarsha]

I also think the cops did a good job in handling the situation ...obviously a senior cop came a long and gave the junior cop his suggestions and what had to be done by rule of law based on how the junior cop wanted to undertake the situation ...A major thing that I don't understand is why he (cop) gave the keys to someone he deemed emotionally upset/unstable and told her to drive the van (she stated she was not comfortable driving the van long distances) and then also give her a location to go get a shower to help calm down, and put him up in hotel??

Why the fork would you not put her up in a hotel and give Mr Calm the van

I mean, cos he didn't own it. But I don't understand how you are uncomfortable driving your own vehicle long distances and then take a cross country trip. She was so scared to be independent it cost her her life.

 

[Madmarsha]

Was he truly dialed in? Don't know. But as a father, it's imperative you learn these little things because it shapes their views as they become young adult women.

In some ways, I think he was dialed in -- or wanted to be -- but I think his particular personality -- extreme New York macho -- was extremely hindered by never having been a 22-year-old girl.

 

[EGLSShin]

Could be him, almost a week, out in the wilderness. Hard to tell though, I remain pretty skeptical.

 

[sonicboom]

 

[Madmarsha]

So my youngest is 27 and I was 21 when my eldest was born. And it is only now that I think I could do a really, really good job raising them — and then only if it was a pre-internet, pre-phone world.

But it’s pretty basic stuff to know that your teenage kids look more to their friends for affirmation and if you don’t show their friends basic human respect, you’re gonna drop even further down the list with them.

A parent bullying their kids’ friends? Really bad form to say the least.

You express concern with being thought to be victim bullying. I don't think you are. I understand EVERYTHING you said including your remarks about Dr. Phil. I was a little surprised to see him talking to Dr. Phil but, okay, he just wanted to get maximum exposure since he had a missing daughter. I'm not sure how discerning he was being considering his panicked mindset. And he even said that his daughter wouldn't come to him because he'd only want to be a fixer. I'm not sure why he didn't consider THAT something he needed to fix.

 

[Madmarsha]

The solution to gun crimes is to not get shot

I'm not sure where I referenced gun crimes.